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“Make the most of yourself....for that is all there is of you.” ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

You might see some of these topics crop up in this section:

• The battle of the bulge - my experience with the gastric sleeve

• All is vanity – trichotillomania, wrinkles, and thinning hair

• Gravity is a downer – thoughts on plastic surgery

• Still crazy after all these years – getting it on with Galahad

Why is middle-age a dirty (hyphenated) word? I've loved my 40s and 50s. I don't have all of the answers, but I'm definitely more comfortable in my saggy, sexy skin than I have been at any other time.

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I say this is part 73 assuming there will be a part 74. How can I be so sure? Because I know that I am human and prone to fucking stuff up. I’m not exactly sure of the exact number of fuck-ups I’ve had … those kind that make your stomach drop … where you start out of a sleep groaning that it was not, after all, one of those bad naked/late-for-work/I-don’t-know-the-words-to-the-aria-I’m-singing-on-stage dreams. My ever-so-precise algorithm was to take the average of slightly more than once a year and add a pretty heavy dose for my undergraduate career.

My latest screw-up starts with my NeighborFriend texting me to ask something very simple.

We are in Cabo. I have our mail on hold, but would like to send something to you so it doesn’t arrive too late. We’ve got tickets to Muse on Saturday night.

No problem. The price will be an invite to Cabo next year.

Ha ha. Wink. Nudge. Except … it ended up being a problem. In the back of my mind, I tuck a little flag to remember to be on the lookout for a package for the...

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I just finished this book and I thought it was fascinating. I'm sure you'll be hearing more about it in other blogs. Its (very well researched) premise is that our agrarian society has messed up a good thing.

Yep - lots of fodder for some blog topics. One topic is that the bonobos (apes that are our closest relations according to DNA evidence) are matriarchal and peaceful. Sex is used for social bonding and to settle differences ... seemingly to the mutual benefit of all. Boy bonobos aren't picking fights because ... well, there is enough to eat and plenty of sex.

Do I think we should be changing the very fabric of our own culture to imitate our ape cousins? Well, yes, maybe I do. BUT I know that isn't ever going to happen. So girlfriends, you need not grip your husbands quite so tightly when you come visit. I am highly unlikely to invite you both in and suggest we run upstairs to the bedroom for a group howdy hump.

However, it does make me sad, and somewhat wistful for an age where there was enough. Where there weren't haves and have nots. [And believe me,...